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Put Your Dreams Under Scrutiny

Article by Todd Smith

Dream Big

What is the most dominate dream you think about? Would you like to know your odds of achieving it? In three minutes you will know your answer.

As part of my desire to continue learning and growing, I attended a leadership event this past weekend hosted by Bob Burg and Paul Martinelli featuring three of my favorite teachers, Les Brown,  Bob Burg and Dr. John C. Maxwell.

Dr. Maxwell (internationally respected leadership expert, speaker, and author) gave an insightful presentation on his book, Put Your Dream to the Test. He said, “The more valid reasons you have for achieving your dreams, the greater your odds will be of achieving them.”

He highlighted 10 important questions you MUST answer to test your dreams.

Are you ready to take the test? Pick ONE of your dreams. Got it? Now answer Maxwell’s 10 questions to determine if the odds are in your favor.

1. Is my dream really my dream? If you want to achieve your dream, you must “own” it. It must be yours, not your parents’, teachers’, or anyone else’s. If the achievement of a dream is not of great importance to YOU, it’s unlikely that you will do what’s required to accomplish it.

2. Do I clearly see my dream? What does it look like? The more specific you are on what your dream looks like, the more likely you will be to achieve it. This is one of the reasons I encourage people to cut out images of their “big” goals and dreams, create a collage, and look at it regularly. At first you may only see a piece of your dream; but each day as you move closer, the clearer it will become.

3. Am I depending on things within my control? This is when you have to be honest with yourself and determine if reaching your dream is within your control. Are you depending on others? If so, who? Do you have the talent, skill or ability to make it come true? If not, can you develop what you are lacking?

4. Do I have the energy to achieve it? This is the passion question. Think of your last great accomplishment. How much energy did it require of you? Is your dream important enough to you that you will put forth the energy necessary over the time period required?

5. Do I have a strategy? I see very few people who take the time to put together a “real” plan to reach their goals. I am often left in awe, wondering, “How do you think you can achieve your goal without putting together a plan?” A plan outlines the things you must do in a prioritized sequence to achieve your desired outcome.

6. Who do I have around me that can help me? Dr. Maxwell said, “A nightmare is a big dream with a bad team.” Who’s on your team to support, encourage, and help you? If you don’t have the right people on your team, identify people you admire and respect; then determine how they can help you.

7. Am I willing to pay the price? This is when you have a gut check and ask yourself, “Am I willing to do what is required of me to see my dream come true?” The bigger your dream, the more it will require of you. Are you willing to put forth the effort, overcome the obstacles, and deal with the disappointments that you will face on your journey?

8. Am I moving closer? This is the tenacity question. Am I closer to reaching my dream today than I was yesterday? Was I closer yesterday than the day before? Look at your “To Do” lists over the last week and identify the steps you have taken toward your dream.

9. Does working toward my dream bring satisfaction? If you are not growing and developing yourself in the pursuit of your dream, it may be time to identify a new one. Your journey must be fulfilling.

10. Does my dream benefit others? If so, Who? Why? If your dream is all about your selfish desires, it’s unlikely that it will ever be realized. Zig Ziglar, the most recognized sales trainer in American history, said, “When you help enough other people get what they want, you will have everything you want.”

How many times did you answer, “Yes”? The more yeses you answered, the more on target you are to achieve your dream. Each of you has the capability to visualize a dream—one that is rewarding and beneficial—and most of you have the ability to accomplish it.

So, what are the odds of achieving your dream? If they’re not high, what can you do to increase your odds? Do you need to put together a plan? Do you need to re-evaluate your commitment? Do you need a new support team?

“Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.” Karen Ravn

Let me encourage you to print this lesson and ask yourself these ten questions with every dream or goal you consider. Since we can’t reasonably pursue everything we desire, we need to be wise and focus only on the things that pass the test.

Dreams come from hidden desires and possibilities. Everyone has dreams that occupy their minds, but it takes determination, a practical plan, and consistent effort to achieve them. Pursue your dream; begin today.

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Benjamin Franklin’s 14 Tips To Getting Things Done

Benjamin Franklin was a man of action. Over his lifetime, his curiosity and passion fueled a diverse range of interests. He was a writer (often using a pseudonym), publisher, diplomat, inventor and one of the Founding Fathers of the United States.

His inventions included the lightning rod, bifocals and the Franklin stove. Franklin was responsible for establishing the first public library, organizing fire fighters in Philadelphia, was one of the early supporters of mutual insurance and crossed the Atlantic eight times. Self-development was a constant endeavor throughout his incredible life.

Benjamin Franklin was clearly a man who knew how to get things done.

Here are 14 action-inducing lessons from him:

    • Less Talk, More Action

      “Well done is better than well said.”
      Talk is cheap. Talking about a project won’t get it completed. We all know people who constantly talk about the things they are going to do but rarely ever take that first step. Eventually people begin to question their credibility. Taking action and seeing the task through to completion is the only way to get the job done.

    • Don’t Procrastinate

      “Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”
      This is probably one of the first quotes I remember hearing as a teenager. With an impressive list of achievements to his credit, Benjamin Franklin was not a man hung up on procrastination. He was a man with clear measurable goals who worked hard to turn his vision into reality. What are you putting off till tomorrow that could make a difference in your life today?

    • Be Prepared

      “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
      You need a plan to accomplish your goals. Charging in without giving any thought to the end result and how to achieve it, is a sure way to fall flat on your face. Think like a boy scout. Have a realistic plan of attack and a systematic approach for getting where you need to be.

    • Don’t Fight Change

      “When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.”
      Whilst many of us don’t like change, others thrive on it. Either way change is inevitable. The stronger we fight against it, the more time and energy it consumes. Give up the fight. Focus on proactively making positive changes, instead of having change merely thrust upon you. Wherever possible, try to view change as a positive instead of a negative.

    • Get Moving

      “All mankind is divided into three classes: those that are immovable, those that are movable, and those that move.”
      There’s a reason we use the expression, movers and shakers. Movers are the ones who take action, the people who get things done, while the immovable are sitting around scratching their heads wondering how others could possibly be so successful. Which group do you want to belong to?

    • Avoid Busywork

      “Never confuse motion with action.”
      We are always running around doing things. We rush from one meeting or event to the next, sometimes without achieving a great deal. At the end of the day, how much of our busywork are we proud of? How much of that running around improves anyone’s life (including ours) for the better? Make your motion mean something.

    • Give Yourself Permission to Make Mistakes

      “Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.”
      If we fear making mistakes, we become scared to try new things. Fear leaves us nestled in our comfort zone. Staying in your comfort zone rarely leads to greatness. Taking risks and giving yourself permission to make mistakes, will ultimately lead you to whatever your version of success may be.

    • Act Quickly on Opportunities

      “To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions.”
      Opportunities are everywhere. The trick is being quick enough and smart enough to seize them when they arise. Instead of jumping to the conclusion that something won’t work or can’t be done, allow yourself the freedom to ask what if?

    • Continue to Grow

      “Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.”
      We all have vices of some description. The key is to keep them under control or preferably eradicate them entirely. Be kind to those around you, whether they are neighbors, family, co-workers or friends. Never accept that you have finished growing as a person.

    • Keep Going

      “Diligence is the mother of good luck.”
      Have you ever looked at a successful entrepreneur or business person and thought how lucky they are? Most of the time, luck has nothing to do with it. Hard work and sacrifice on the other hand have everything to do with it. Successful people deal with failure. They tackle their demons head on. They pick themselves up and keep going.

    • Know Yourself

      “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.”
      Understanding ourselves is not easy. Sometimes we just don’t want to see ourselves for who we really are. It’s much easier to hold onto a romanticized version of ourselves or to simply view ourselves through other people’s eyes. Start by being brutally honest with yourself. Follow through with understanding, compassion and acceptance.

    • Don’t Self-Sabotage

      “Who had deceived thee so often as thyself?”
      We spend so much time worrying about other people hurting us, yet fail to comprehend the damage we inflict on ourselves. If you are using negative self-talk, lying to yourself or indulging in addictive behavior you are self-sabotaging. Life can dish up enough challenges without us adding to the mix. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself like you would a best friend.

    • Don’t Give Up

      “Energy and persistence conquer all things.”
      Achieving our goals can be downright exhausting. There will be days when you want to give up. There will be times when your energy levels flatline and you wonder why you bother getting out of bed. Yet you push forward, day after day because you believe in yourself and you have the determination and strength to back up that belief.

    • Wise Up

      “Life’s tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late.”
      Benjamin was definitely onto something with this one. Who hasn’t had the thought – I wish I could know then, what I know now? Unfortunately there is no time machine; there is no going back. The key is to wise up as early as you can to start forging a life of purpose, achievement and happiness.

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How To Achieve Your Goals

An expert tells Eloise King why he believes there is a better strategy than positive thinking.

We all know it’s important to have goals and we’ve all heard that thinking positively can help you achieve them. But is it the most effective strategy to get that new job, lose 10 kilos or run a marathon?

Human behaviour specialist John Demartini doesn’t think so. He says positive thinking can, at times, be self defeating – and there is a much more effective way to get what you want.

“Some people get addicted to it, but relentless positive thinking encourages people to hold a public facade of always being ‘up’, while their private life can be the polar opposite,” he says. “If you talk yourself into believing a fantasy goal you’ve created because you need to be positive about something, it won’t be important enough for you to do whatever it takes to get there, and so you’ll fail.”

Demartini believes that when it comes to achievement and inspiration, self-knowledge is a better strategy than positive thinking. He cites the advice of ancient philosopher Socrates – “know thyself” – and says self-awareness is critical to success.

“To know thyself you must figure out what your personal values are – not those of your parents, partner or friends – and set goals that are congruent with them,” he says. Through aligning goals with our values, we are genuinely inspired.

Your highest values

We don’t often think about our values, but they are critical to our happiness and success. Demartini suggests writing down your top three responses to these questions in order to determine yours.

  • How do you fill your space? Important things are held closely, usually on display in your house, worn or carried around with you.
  • How do you spend your time? You make time for things that are important and run out of time for things that aren’t.
  • Where do you always have energy for something? What energises you when you do it?
  • Where do you spend your money? Would you get behind on your rent to buy a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes? Then that says something about what you value.
  • Where are you most organised? Things that come up repeatedly represent your highest values.

Real goals

“The real source of affirmative living is doing things that are congruent with what’s truly important to you,” Demartini says. “When we set a goal with our highest values in mind, we see the greatest opportunity, and are inspired to do things that count.

“When you are congruent, you’ll endure pain and pleasure in pursuit of your goals, you’ll have more long-term vision, more patience and persistence, you’ll believe in yourself, and your internal experience of your life becomes ‘I can, I know and I do’.”

Tip: Keeping a journal can be a great way of improving your self-awareness and gaining insight

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Spring Clean Your Life

Spring is the perfect excuse for a home and life overhaul. The experts share their best tips.

Are you mid-way through spring without having had a proper spring clean of your home or life? body+soul’s experts show you how to get started today.

Throw out your old trainers

Spring is a great time to refresh your workout. Start by buying a new pair of trainers.

“A tired, old pair can lead to foot, knee, hip and lower-back injuries,” says body+soul fitness expert Damien Kelly. “Get fitted for a shoe that suits your foot.”

He says seeing a new pair of trainers by the door will also motivate you to use them.

Don’t waste time on a long workout

Abandon the idea that more is better when it comes to exercise. “A famous fitness saying is: if you’re in the gym for longer than an hour, you’re making friends,” Kelly says.

Instead of slaving away on the treadmill, Kelly suggests short bursts in a circuit. “A high-energy circuit, where you’re rapidly moving between whole-body strength moves and bursts of intense cardio, is perfect,” he says.

Start your day with a good stretch

Our muscles and the tissues that surround them need to breathe daily, so commit to starting your morning with a simple stretch. Just 10 minutes each morning will help you release tension and start the day feeling invigorated.

“Try some hamstring, lower-back and shoulder stretches that can be done on the bus, in front of the TV, after a workout or at the office,” Kelly says. “If you can’t motivate yourself, find a local yoga class.”

Get rid of the garbage

We’re not talking about doing a decluttering session. We mean the garbage in your pantry and fridge. If it’s not there you won’t eat it.

“Start by clearing your fridge and cupboards of sugary or fatty processed foods,” says body+soul nutritionist Lisa Guy. “Then go for a big shop and stock up on fresh seasonal fruits, vegies, nuts, seeds and wholegrains.”

Detox your diet

Spring is the perfect time to detox your liver of harmful chemicals. Guy says you can lighten your toxic load by reducing your coffee and alcohol intake.

“Try having an alcohol-free month and buy organic goods where you can,” she says.

Here are two easy ways to detox your diet:

  • Sip ginger tea twice a day. The ginger will relieve bloating and boost digestion so your body works more efficiently.
  • Drink hot water with lemon juice. It will keep you hydrated and the vitamin C it contains will help convert toxins into a water-soluble form that is easily flushed away.

 

Clear the air in your relationships

If there are conversations you are avoiding, have them! Clearing the air is important, says body+soul relationship expert Toby Green.

“Withholding the truth about the way you feel creates an ‘elephant in the room’,” Green says. “A good opener is to ask your partner to help you resolve what’s bothering you. You could say something such as, ‘Am I being overly sensitive or…’”

Make time for each other

Keeping your relationship healthy can take time, so pledge to spend a certain amount of time together each week. “The more a couple spend time together, the better,” Green says. “The thread that will keep you connected is the question, ‘How are you really?’”

Throw out those chemicals

Helping the environment can also mean helping your own health, especially when it comes to toxic chemicals you keep around the home.

If anyone in your house suffers from allergies, skin conditions such as eczema, or breathing problems, using natural-based cleaning products could help ease their condition.

Jonathan Boys, from Sydney-based environmental service The Watershed, suggests making your own household cleaning products using ingredients such as vinegar, bicarb soda and eucalyptus oil.

For example, you can clean bathroom tiles by pouring vinegar onto a sponge, sprinkling it with baking soda and then using it to wipe over the tiles.

Become a list-maker

If you’re always going through a to-do list in your head, put pen to paper. Creating a hard copy will clear space in your mind that can be put to better use. Then tackle the tasks one at a time, starting with the smallest.

“Don’t start with the biggest item,” says life coach Connie Diano. “One success means you’ll be more inclined to tackle something harder.”

Create your own rituals

If you have a goal you want to achieve, Diano says a good way to start is to commit to a ritual you repeat daily or weekly. “You need to have a pattern to achieve your goal,” she says. “If you want to lose weight, get up at 6am every morning and go for a walk.”

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The DNA Of Success – Is Jack Zufelt Crazy?

I recently came across Jack Zufelt’s book The DNA Of Success and wondered if this guy was crazy.

 

Crazy for writing a book telling us not to set goals.

For years the self help gurus have been telling us that we need to write down our goals, say daily affirmations and participate in visualisation if we want to have a dream life. But how many of us REALLY achieve that?

Well The DNA Of Success goes against all such notions and provides us with a clear alternative that Jack Zufelt has used for years and has taught thousands of students to do the same.

Jack believes that it is our core desires that are our true guides to achieving greatness.

Click on the video link below to discover more about how you can identify your core desires and how you can use them to unearth your conquering force to help you create your dream life.

This book truly offers an alternative to all the self help guru mumbo jumbo. Watch the video now.

http://www.viddler.com/explore/globalbizz/videos/57/

The video outlines the two major questions you need to ask yourself to discover your core desires. By drilling down on these desires you’ll discover which are your true core desires because they are attached to strong emotions.

Is one of your Core Desires to earn more money? Complete the form to the right to earn more cash.

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What’s Your Why? – The Goal Setting Delusion Busted

Have you ever arrived at a destination – literally or metaphorically – only to discover that it wasn’t what you thought it would be? It didn’t live up to your expectations? Or maybe you purchased something only to realise that the marketing was much better than the actual product? The idea wasn’t the reality? In other words, you didn’t get what you expected?  

Me too.

The Happiness Goal

In a few weeks, millions (and millions) of people from all around the world will set goals for the New Year. It’s what we’ve been taught to do. It’s our ritual. Our culture. Our way. It’s how we get stuff. Fix stuff. Manage stuff. Change stuff. Apparently. We’ll set personal goals. And professional goals. Financial goals. Fitness goals. Academic goals. Behavioural goals. Short-term. Long-term. Goals, goals, goals. Apparently, achieving our goals will make our life better. It will make us successful. And happy.  

Or not.

Is it true? Does ticking boxes, completing to-do lists and achieving goals necessarily equal happiness?  Improvement? Growth? Let’s take a look at how a typical goal-setting process might work:

John

John is not a particularly happy cat. But he wants to be. He works long hours, earns an average wage, doesn’t feel appreciated, is frustrated and constantly struggles to keep his head above water – financially speaking. He reasons that more money is the solution to his problems. Not an altogether unreasonable point of view. So, together with his life-coach Bryce (don’t ask), he sets himself the goal of doubling his wage within two years. On some level (consciously or not), he believes that more money will equal less stress and anxiety, a nicer car, a better standard of living, cooler clothes, more approval, greater self-esteem and it might even make him more attractive to a potential life-partner.

In reality, it’s not the money (as such) that John’s after but rather what he believes a greater income will bring to his life: new stuff, better stuff, different stuff. Which he believes will equate to happiness. Which is why he does the goal-setting thing in the first place.

Two years later, John has achieved what he set out to. Kind of. He’s earning twice the money, has climbed the corporate ladder, is driving a nicer car, living in a better house in a better suburb and he’s even had his teeth whitened. He’s flying.

And miserable.

For some reason, in the middle of all his professional achievements, box-ticking and acquiring of cool new stuff, there’s no happiness to be found. He feels empty. Depressed even.

But why?  

A few possibilities:

1. Maybe the crucial thing missing in John’s life wasn’t money after all.
2. Perhaps his happiness is more about his internal reality than anything in his physical world.
3. Maybe his emotional, physiological and/or sociological needs will never be met with new stuff, better stuff or different stuff.

Where Happiness Ain’t

While there’s nothing inherently wrong with acquiring stuff, ticking boxes or making shit-loads of money (of course), sometimes we simply look for answers in the wrong place. We set the wrong goals. We seek happiness where it ain’t. And when that’s the case, it doesn’t matter how hard we work – we won’t find what we’re really looking for.

Earning more money won’t give me a better relationship with my wife when her love language is quality time. She doesn’t need more money, she needs more me. Losing thirty kilos won’t necessarily make me a happier person. All weight-loss guarantees is weight-loss. Gaining a degree (although a great achievement) won’t automatically improve my self esteem or confidence. It might just mean that I’m well-educated and insecure. Still. And driving a Porsche doesn’t necessarily equal cool.

Sometimes, it equals tool.

The ‘Why’

These days, when I help people through their goal-setting process, I’m more interested in the ‘why’ than I am the ‘what’. What they want is an issue but why they want it is the issue. Their why is their driver. Their ‘real’ goal.  Their why tells me who they are beyond the outward goal. Sometimes, we need to take our ego and over-thinking mind out of the goal-setting process. Sometimes we need to tap into our inner-intelligence and pay attention. Setting goals can be a healthy, normal and valuable part of our journey when we go about it consciously.

So, if you’re thinking about setting some goals any time soon, you might want to forget the what and focus on the why.

What’s your why?

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