By Darren Hardy, Success
When I asked a friend, who was wearing his smile upside down, what was troubling him, that was his answer, “Money, money, money!”
Seems to be the same answer if you ask what’s troubling Wall Street, the housing market, the unemployment rate, political campaigns, charitable endeavors, corporate quarterly earnings, small-business startups and the strife between husband and wife: Money, money, money!
So, let’s talk about it.
Money—love it or hate it, you need it. Best you get buddy-buddy with it. Promptly.
Aside from temporary setbacks and extraordinary fortunes of inheritance or luck, if you want to know how someone feels about himself or herself—look at their bank account.
If you want to know how someone feels about himself or herself—look at their bank account.
Money is one of the greatest measurements of one’s mindset. As Jim Rohn says, “Your net worth will seldom exceed your self worth.” This is probably why there is so much emotion and psychosis tied to people’s relationship with money. It can be very revealing.
Thus, if you want to fix your money problems, get your head examined.
It’s your mindset and attitude about money that will either draw it in to you… or repel it away from you.
What’s in Your Head Determines What’s in Your Wallet
In this three-part series, I am going to help you acquire the attitude and mindset of financial abundance.
If you want more money, here is where to look… within… or it is likely to become self-evident that you will go without.
In the book The Instant Millionaire by Mark Fisher, the old millionaire asks the boy who has sought his advice about becoming a millionaire, “Why aren’t you rich already?”
That is a good question to ask yourself. You live in an era of unprecedented wealth and opportunity. It has never been easier, and more people have become wealthy in the last 20 years than during any other time in human history. Why haven’t you?
Your answer to this question will reveal a lot about yourself. Your answers will expose your excuses, rationalizations, justifications and maybe some self-limiting beliefs, doubts and fears.
Hey, remember, you don’t read this blog for me to take it easy on you and to skirt around the issue. I think you appreciate me giving it to you straight, right?
It’s time to reprogram your mental hard drive. One of the greatest limitations to achieving financial abundance is a deep-seated belief that somehow money is wrong and that people who have a lot of it are inherently manipulative, conniving and/or evil. This belief is fiction. It goes back to early childhood conditioning, when the growing child is often told this by those who are jealous of others and want to rationalize away their own financial failures.
Contrary to the sourpuss creed: Money is the root of all good. It takes money to build hospitals, churches, shelters and charities. Money is also needed to buy homes, cars, clothes, food, education, vacations and other glorious experiences in life. Life is limitless abundance.
The other side of the dollar bill
To gain money is not to take it away from someone else. Money is granted to the creator, the one who has built something where nothing existed before. Money is the tool of exchange for production. Money is earned only by the producer. Wealth is the material shape of value that was created by effort and applied discipline. Money has energy of its own and it is largely attracted to people who understand its virtues and respect its power.
Money tends to flow toward those people who can use it in the most productive ways to produce valuable goods and services, and who can invest it to create employment and opportunities that benefit others. At the same time, money flows away from those who use it poorly, or who spend it in nonproductive ways.
Here’s what might be pushing money away from you: your attitude.
Your attitude about money is either attracting money to you or pushing it away. If we build a negative relationship with the dollar bill, it’s reflected in our thoughts, feelings and actions.
Let me identify for you the most destructive and costly attitude there is: worry.
Worry will push money away from you. Worry is a fear emotion. Fearful thoughts deplete your creative energies, inhibiting your ability to make smart choices and take progressive action, which ends up pushing you farther away from prosperity.
Now let me give you the antidote to worry: gratitude.
When we have an attitude and belief of abundance we attract money toward us. This isn’t any voodoo secret, it is plain and simple—you see what you are looking for and expect to find.
When we are confident about money, grateful for what we have, that changes how we see things; how we talk, act and interact. This mindset, outlook and behavior also stimulate your inner creativity and attract other like-minded people and circumstances that come with money-making insights and opportunities.
Positive, ambitious, abundant-minded people like to associate with and do business with like kind. They avoid those with nervous or pessimistic attitudes about what’s possible. Once you feel thankful for all you have, you will feel instantly wealthy. Once you feel wealthy you will continue to think wealthy and act wealthy, and it will charge up the magnet that will attract more and more wealth to you.